Raising confident kids

There’s something I want you to do, today. Right after you’ve read this blog or as soon as your kids come home from school – today!

Ask your children “What makes you YOU, why are you so loved, what’s special about you”?

This task isn’t to determine who brushed their teeth properly this morning, who behaves the most or answering to please you. This is to find out what your children think about themselves. You know why you love them and what makes them special. But what do they think? Can they even answer the question?

If they are stuck and can’t think help them. Do they think they are kind, caring, a good friend. Or do they think they are amazing! The answers your children give you may be a shock or may show that they aren’t as confident as you thought they were. They may even surprise you and say great things about themselves.

The task is important I think, as it will show what you project onto your children. Yes there are the celebrity footballers and singers for role models but who are their biggest and most influential role models? You, the parents and careers, the people around them the most

This is not something to make you feel good or bad but to show you what your children think of themselves. It can be deceiving that you think your child is the most confident of them all with lots of friends, captain of the team. Or you may worry about your child if they have trouble making friends or you think they daydream too much. There’s lots of examples but you may find that a child who is happy with themself, inside their mind but who doesn’t have many friends is actually better off with the perspective of them than a child who is maybe the captain of the team with so many friends but feels insecure inside.

However your children answer, there is no need to worry as it’s just about boosting their confidence. When you tell your child how much you love them throw in your amazing or you’re so clever, what a great friend you are.

Let’s all work together to raise happy children.

Written by Victoria.